Undeniably, bullying becomes the chronic problem especially in America. In the past (2008?), Japan got the first rank for bullying, and i could not believe that Thailand was at the 8th. Here is the definition given for bullying.
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behaviour among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behaviour is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.
I would like to write about this because I was once the victim, the bully and observer. When I was in the high school, i have experience them all. Now, here are ideas you have to know about bully.
The Bully are actually the coward and have the mental problem like the victim.
In the other word, to be honest, the one who is bullied doesn’t deserved to be called victim. I will explain this more. However, here is the basic human defence mechanism.
If you don’t want to be threatened, then threaten someone first.
That is one of the reason person becomes bully who is looking for the scapegoat. The bully is full of fear. The more they abuse people, the more fear they show to the public.
The bullied should be praised as the strong people.
You read it right. They are the strongest even though you heard the news that some chose to commit suicide. However, they can cry. They don’t choose to bully other to get rid of the fear and sorrow but they accept that they are painful. That is what the bully cannot do.
if you have your kids who are bullied, be compassionate not only to your kid but to the bully. They are not different.
They both all fear of being abused but your kids are so strong to cry out loud and accept the pain.