People always misunderstood between these two concepts. I know many of my friends who are so strong and mature that they are able to do more and more things and rely less on others. I feel impressed because the more they are responsible to their lives, the more freedom they can dance. Look around you. There are so many people who keep dreaming to dance with the freedom but they can just dream and fear to make it real. I mean they would like to enjoy their freedom but they don’t want to be responsible for their thoughts, feelings and actions. It is impossible that freedom can exist without responsibility. This is one of the natural truths when you are still alive. This about this, if you can be responsible for your behaviours and mind, there will be no one would like to “involve your business”. This concept is favourable for the individualism that the western countries have followed so far. That is what the independence means. Responsibility, and I don’t mean that you must carry out the difficult burden on your shoulder. That is definitely wrong for this word.
Responsibility is just the ability to response to your thoughts, feelings and actions. Nothing more. Nothing less.
So, stop blaming other people and situations that affect to you. They are just motivate your inner needs which are yours. All yours. Those must be concerned in your responsibility. Yes, response your own needs.
However, you will find the weakness of the concept of individualism and independence. The problem is you cannot do everything of course. You cannot be responsible for almost everything. For example, if one day your electricity is ran out of your country and i teach you about responsibility, will you go outside your house and ride a bike to produce the electricity like the hamster running on the wheel continuously?
Yes, you cannot be responsible for everything. That is when the concept of the interdependence comes. Be clear on the difference between independence and interdependence, and you need both to create peace and harmony in your lives and this world too. The key of interdependence is “compassion”. Oh, don’t misunderstand that i have to ask you to believe in the compassion. There is no need to do that.
The needs of human are so common that everyone can understand the happiness when needs are fulfilled and the tension when they aren’t.
Although the feeling from the responded or unmet needs is the individual experience, you can understand it. If I get cold, you don’t get cold with me, so you don’t know how I feel bad right here and now. However, you can understand me because you had the experience of getting cold before.
Compassion is so powerful. When one understand others’ needs, one will help response their needs as if they are one’s (with the clear communication). That is the concept of interdependence.
People can understand other’s needs and help each other.
Balance between independence and interdependence.
You are weak if you rely too much on interdependence
but you will be ignorant if you rely too much on the independence.