Everything was born in pair. Light and darkness. Clean and Dirty. God and Satan. To refuse one, you have to refuse the opposite. That is the rule of life. Therefore, to go beyond your suffering, you have to go beyond your happiness. That is the only way because the happiness that most people usually experience is relative. Here are 4 Noble Truth that you can simply apply to your life.
Figure out your suffering
Being at the very present is the best. You cannot end your suffering without knowing what it is even its existence otherwise it will be like finding needles under the ocean. Yes, you have to figure it out. Try to explain it, visualise it so that you can see your suffering. In the other word, you can be freed from your suffering, and you need your own awareness to do that. Remember, you have to figure it out by yourself.
See the cause of your suffering
When the suffering is finally in front of you, you will know what happen, things, people and factors that involve in the situation. Actually, there is the only one cause of the suffering. That is ego. It always create “desires” that tries to protect you from things and situations that keep dissatisfying you. If you can see how ego is related to your suffering, that is the next great step for you, congratulation.
Then, let see your goal, the moment that you are finally beyond the suffering. That implies that you finally transcend your mind also. Actually, I should not say that the state of no suffering is your goal because “goal” is still created from your desire. See the secretary of Buddha. After Buddha passed away, he failed to go beyond suffering since he still “wanted” to be the noble monk and enlighten. After he failed and put himself on his pillow, he enlightened!
Ways to end suffering
Last is the way to end suffering, and it always start from your thought then feeling, speaking and action. If you are always aware of your thoughts, freedom is yours because now you have too many choice to think about the situations that in front of you. Yes, you have so many choices to response. That is what I called “responsibility”. Just the ability to response not the ability to burden the rubbish mistakes on your shoulder.
These 4 rules were founded by Lord Buddha. However, it doesn’t sound religious. If you see how these rules are arranged, they stared from the effect before cause. The order of these rules would like to tell you that you have to live your life nowhere. I mean “now” and “here”, and you will be able to go beyond your sadness and dance your life.