We were born with ego, the false substitution. It is because of our ignorance that we have to identify ourselves with things and positions which weren’t born with us. They have been already prepared by the society before we were born. Thus, let see how we forget ourselves by living in society.
We would like to fit in the society
When we are among other people, what we perceives will not be able to maintain last long since the society has already set the conditions for individual. (See more explanation here) However, it is the desire of individual to go along with what other “believed” (not to let ten down at least) rather than what s/he really perceive things as they are. S/he also fear to be stand out or appear different and foolish: They want to fit in. It is “fear” and “desire” of individual that seal his real self away (and tragically, society helps him to do that)
The world is just theatre:
You can pretend to be
who you want to be until you really become
The society not only gives us so many roles to functions the interactions among people but also teaches us to impress people with many facial and vocal expression. We have to prepare different masks to impress different people. Finally, we will end up with despair that we are unable to identify our real self. I heard Amy Cuddy said “Fake it, until you make it” but I said “Make it, so you don’t have to fake it” When you can remember your self, you don’t have to fake but you can impress people with your true self.
The more we sense it, the more we like it.
Not all preference that individual could have with their own attitude and intelligence. Society will play with us through repeated exposure that create familiarity. Unconsciously, Individual will bring an attitude change toward the exposure and form the preference on it. The more we sense it, the more we like it. Thus, the business, religion, school or even government always set the propaganda and advertisement to people. They may not like or even against it at first but they will be familiar with it at least until it becomes part of their life.
That is how society could make you lose yourself. However, it is your responsibility to be aware of everything around you before you bring them to your life. Let me give you Osho’s quote to summarise this.
“I teach you rebellion!
Come out of the masses.
Stand alone like a lion
and live your life
according to your own light.”
Remember, when individual is good, society will be good not vice versa.