Moreover, hated and love can reinforce each other!

When you love someone, you want that person to exist. When you hate someone, you want to get rid of that person. However, why do you want to erase that person? There are your love and happiness that you wish for. Thus, it is time to understand the real another side of love.

I believe that everybody will protect people they love with their own life, and hatred begins. People have different preference and attitudes, so normally someone could insult your parents, your friends and your lover. Now, you, as the protector, are going to hate and insult them back Other, who love and protect them will do the same thing toward you like you did to them. Then, people who love and protect you will plan to counter them back.

This is the chain of love and hatred.


Love and hatred “connected” each other

not opposite against each other.

     Hatred can fuel love. Hatred is thing or person that you want to push away. Love is thing or person that you want to stand by. You could hate not only the people who are against your beloved people but also “your beloved people”. As mentioned, people have different preference and attitudes. It is impossible that you agree with what your friend and partner does. You argue, hate and want them to be away from you.

However, because you have already loved them. Your love is so strong, so compassion is the way to let your hatred pass again and again. You don’t want to shut your month against your beloved people forever, so you or them may start to talk and understand each other thought, feeling, needs, and the way to fulfil each other. The more hatred you can pass, the stronger your love is. You can even compassionate to people who are against your beloved people also.

Hatred is not against love.

Hatred is temporary due to empathy,

Love is real and eternal.

That is why Jesus said “Love your enemy”. That is simply understandable.

but do not forget to “Hate your best friend”  That has never been simply understandable.

so what is the opposite of love?


Look what Psychology Today defined fear. It is a vital response to physical and emotional danger to protect ourselves from legitimate threats. You need something to protect yourself like the armour suit. It is the mask. It is your “ego”. It is your false substitute. Everybody fear their emptiness inside, so they want to be fulfilled. They need to to be told who they are, so they possess things that can brand themselves. Expensive cars, big houses with the golden dog houses, gorgeous clothes just to let people tell who you are.

but they are nothing. People notice the self that you created with those rubbishes but the truth is they cannot create or even find their self. You have already been with your self. You were born with it!

The more you brand yourself, the more fear you have and hide.

Love is the only thing to fulfil your emptiness. When you become fully aware of yourself, you will be sensitive to people who take care of you. Now, your emptiness disappear. Your ego is useless. You will be fulfilled then thankfully overwhelmed. Now, you “have to” give them back and share your love and care to others. It is like a glass that cannot contain water from waterfall. Soon, the water overwhelm the glass and goes to anywhere without direction.

Hatred and love should fuel each other

to strengthen love.

That is when fear disappears

like the darkness vanishes with the light.


Written by Jade the Mystic

The psychology and mindfulness writer helping you leverage your mind, understand life, reduce stress, relax and learn to heal your body and soul with meditation through life quotes, articles, books, speeches and advises.


  1. Very nice! In my book I say that not hate is the opposite of love but fear is. Hate and Love are results of the same energy and can never exist at the same time. As you say (I also do in my book) like darkness cannot exist when you light up a candle. Very good detailed explanation! I also believe that love is not equal love. Often love itself is misunderstood since real love, divine love, the mother of love is unconditionally and selfless. A very big topic!

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    1. Exactly right, Erika.

      From my experience, I found that when haters understand each other, they can compassionate each other. Surprisingly, both hatred and love are so powerful. The more strongly one can hate, the more strongly one can love.

      What we need is to take time to understand these 3 people.

      Person in front of you
      Person watching us as 3rd person.

      Very appreciated to your excellent comment as always!
      Jade the Mystic

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      1. Exactly, someone that hates very strong is able to feel very deep which means that this person also loves deeply. I never thought about it, but you are absolutely right. They simply feel very deep! Thank you for your lovely and always so detailed reply!

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